During a recent conversation, someone told me they would not have been able to handle paralysis the way that I have. To which I responded: “Of course you would have been able to. You just don’t know it.”
In fact, I think most people are more capable than they realize. I certainly am not the exception. I’ve just had the fortune/misfortune of encountering an impetus that forced me to discover my resilience. The truth is that most people underestimate the resilience that exists within them. It is a skill that lies dormant in everyone… Until it doesn’t.
Life is hard. I don’t think any of us will deny that. And unfortunately, adversity will likely befall all of us. When that happens, it’s important to remember that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back. It’s about adapting and growing stronger in the face of adversity.
Whether it’s recovering from a spinal cord injury or navigating any of life’s unexpected challenges, resilience is a skill that can be developed. I don’t claim to hold the secret recipe for overcoming adversity, but I have learned a thing or two throughout my experience that I think is worth sharing.
Here are five strategies to help build and sustain resilience.
Embrace the Present
- It’s natural to mourn what was lost, but it’s crucial to focus on the here and now. Accepting your current situation allows you to see opportunities and make the most of your circumstances. Practice mindfulness to stay grounded and appreciate small moments of joy. I explored this in more depth two posts ago.
Set Realistic Goals
- By now you probably know how big of a fan I am of the “inches” that lay in front of us. “Inch by inch is a cinch, yard by yard is awfully hard.” This little mantra has helped me move mountains. Break down your long-term goals into manageable steps. Small, achievable milestones can help you stay motivated and provide a sense of accomplishment. Celebrate these small victories—they’re the building blocks of resilience.
Build a Support Network
- Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you. Whether it’s family, friends, or support groups, having a strong network can provide emotional support, practical advice, and a sense of belonging. If you find yourself in a position where you don’t have these type of people in your life, actively seek them out. We are communal creatures by nature. No matter how tough you may think you are, we need others.
Cultivate a Positive Mindset
- Focus on what you can control rather than what you can’t. This shift in perspective helps reduce feelings of helplessness. Practice gratitude, affirmations, and self-compassion to nurture a positive outlook. Full disclosure, I still struggle with this. That is why I always remind myself that I get to choose my attitude. Attitude equals altitude.
Adapt and Innovate
- Resilience often means finding new ways to approach old problems. Be open to change and willing to try different strategies. Whether it’s using adaptive equipment or finding alternative ways to achieve your goals, flexibility is key. And don’t worry about what others might think.
Resilience is not about never falling down. It’s about getting back up each time you do.
Stand Strong!
Scott
Thank you Scott for having the courage to say “I want to live”
You have inspired me and others to get rid of those chains that paralyse us although we have healthy bodies.
God bless you always!
Enjoyed the book and will read it over and over
Must read for everyone
Thank you Scott for this email post. Yes, life is hard. Strategies to get thru the most difficult of times are good. Here’s hoping your Christmas season is one filled with blessings, Joy, and lots of good family and friends time ! Dianne
Scott, I don’t think I can do this. You see I’m on day four of putting off wrapping gifts. I’ve done nothing else and I have a hard out on Tuesday for going to NY. Every year I find this challenge completely debilitating. Oh, have you checked out The Fireplace (Yule Log) from Adult Swim on Max? I did yesterday while trying to get up the nerve to wrap gifts. The less you know about it the better it is. Thanks for helping me get over myself. I’ll wrap tomorrow.
Scott,
Happy Holidays. The message in this post was so impactful that I printed it and posted it in my closet so that every morning, I am reminded of your resilience and that, yes, we all have it in us. When my mom was dying of cancer I never thought I’d make it through that time in my life. Eight years later, even though I think of her every day, I am reminded that if I could get through that period, I can get through a lot more. But I appreciate and value your wisdom, Scott. You are the most inspirational person on this planet that I know.
Lisa Yates
Well said, Scott. All so true – we don’t know what we can overcome and grow from until we walk a mile in those shoes. You remain an inspiration, always. Your cousin – G
Scott,
Thank you for this valuable advice. There’s so much good stuff in this post. Everyone, in every situation needs to apply these tips to their life. Merry Christmas ~ Happy New Year Scott.
One of the MANY gifts you continue to give each one of us, are the words of wisdom and life inspired guidance you share with these thoughtful posts. Thank you! January is around the corner, better get working on those resolutions!
Scott, You are an inspiration to all of us
Thank you for always so generously sharing your wisdom, Scott!